as the person who chewed out the other poster for the joke that brought us the staff post and their ban…
I think your joke was
nice
- Your joke was structured around literally Pikmin
- 69 is memetic at this point, and even when viewed strictly sexually is by definition mutually beneficial and equal
- Though evoking 69, your joke wasn’t actually explicit. It was slightly absurdist while — from my read anyway — joking about the internet’s capacity to make baffling fan art about video games. And those things absolutely should NOT be posted here or given too much tangential airtime, but… idk, the structure of your joke seemed inherently innocent.
The reasons I felt the other joke was extremely inappropriate and unwelcoming to many of us on this board:
- Stealing, posting, and sharing leaked nudes on the internet is extremely fucked up. Those women (and others, but most often women) don’t get any say in whether or not their own private personal pictures are online, and can’t control the spread once it happens. The hackers that steal their photos fucking profit on explicitly going against their consent. Choosing to take and post explicit photos of yourself is still a choice you can consent to, and it can even be empowering. But having your private photos stolen and posted is not, and never will be. It’s dehumanizing, terrifying, and frequently leads to all sorts of vile fucking comments where you can’t fucking win or get any peace of mind back. Please never support this. Ever.
- Worse yet is this all happening to underage girls (and others, but mostly girls) who have even less of a say in this and even greater consequences. Like don’t joke about child porn!! obviously!! And don’t joke about it from the perspective of “will I get in trouble for having it” when that inherently implies you would support the systems and people that made it happen as long as you wouldn’t get in trouble!!!!
- I also feel like having a specific desktop folder for “internet nudes” in this the year of our lord 2021 is an inherently creepy way for certain people to feel “ownership” over those women’s (and others, but usually women’s) bodies devoid of their consent – but that’s a debate for another day and I feel like not as immediately popular as my other takes.
So those are my incomplete takes on the matter. And
I’m not a mod! so those takes may not be entirely the same as the community’s — which is to say,
@Imitatio, that I can neither grant you immunity nor definitively say that your joke didn’t make people uncomfortable!
but as one of the people who gets very uncomfortable with “boy’s club” and “creep shit” posts and usually claps back, I liked your joke
The great thing about a new community is we can all communicate what makes us uncomfortable and do what we can to be welcoming, so always feel free to share if something doesn’t sit right with you!
