Online dating sucks. It's a lot of ghosting or getting 1 word answers to conversations, not wanting to talk at all. I also live in smallish town in the south so I always make sure they don't have any maga or trump 2024 shit in their pictures (which I see way too much of). Tinder is just exhausting. I wish there was a better way, but it's all I got.
Oh gosh, this brings me back to the horrors of online dating, which I endured for 7 years from 2014-2021.
The amount of times I was ghosted, catfished, or matched with people claiming to be in my area only to get "oh actually I'm in x country haha" was absolutely soul-crushing. Looking back now, I can scarcely fathom why I stuck with it for as long as I did.
At the end of the day though, I feel like I can't complain too much, as it was ultimately a dating app where I met the woman I feel is the love of my life.
She's kind, funny, clever, hardworking, and above all she is the most accepting and understanding person I have ever met, completely embracing me for who I am in all my weirdness, struggles, and baggage. When my autism kicks in, which my past partners had difficulty dealing with, she just smiles and says she loves seeing me excited and it makes me "sparkle".
Meeting her made 7 years of hell worth it.
I'd say a lot depends on the app you use. Tinder is pretty much entirely a waste of time, OKCupid used to be good but had gone to shit when I left it last year, Plenty of Fish has likewise become awful, Bumble was surprisingly decent but still a lot of work for few results, and Coffee Meet Bagel was the best.
At any rate, if I can find my perfect match out there, with all my challenges and imperfections, then you can too. If you're still searching for your one in seven billion, keep at it; perseverence is key and as cliche as it sounds, with the vast diversity of the human species, there really is someone for everyone.
Take care, and best wishes from someone who has been through the wringer and can tell you firsthand that there is light at the end of the tunnel.