I'm sorry to hear that. My racist uncle is banned from Thanksgiving because my aunt hosts (sister of his wife). And during Christmas, his children hosts so he's invited but he usually just sits in a corner to himself with everyone ignoring him. Bad family members can really bring the holidays down.
canβt relate to this notion of βone bad family member ruining an otherwise great timeβ
itβs nothing but knives, and when itβs not knives itβs BUY MY SHIT, and when itβs not that itβs The Child Lord Dictates That You Will Be Happy, and when itβs not that itβs miserable slush that soaks in your bones, and when itβs not that itβs nobody can schedule and everyoneβs at odds and no matter who does what it all somehow ends up your problem, or itβs horrific taste, or itβs insufferable music thatβs only cool when itβs goth and if itβs goth itβs probably deeply racist, or itβs every collapsing expectation of how youβre supposed to be, or how youβre supposed to be in front of family, or how youβre not supposed to act poor, and can you believe they acted rich, and oh their house is gone now, guess they faked it for some made up horseshit that never fucking helped those damn kids, or itβs everyoneβs horrible boyfriend or husband makes me want to die and I donβt know if I need to take a knife with me to bed or if that will be enough, or why are you all doing this to yourselves, or why are you all doing this to me, or every lie everyone tells themselves about living and loving and being happy when they are fucking miserable, and how dare you live a true life, how dare you be actually happy, how dare you be so deeply fucking sad, how dare you live in terror, how dare you act different, how dare you change, how dare you not recreate this photo, how dare you have a life so much better and so much worse than everyone who went through the shitty little hoops that they did to be respected, that theyβre killing the world for, that they echo to kill anything they think could grow taller than them, any love that could be better than theirs, any hope and any despair that is true of this world and not in line with mythos tiny and enormous, over and over again trotting the fuck on off a cliff