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I was watching an Adam's ruins everything clip on why divorce is actually a good thing, there was this comment chain debating if divorcing when you have kids is a good thing and I wanted to know y'all thoughts on this.
parallel to this, you have to think about how their earliest example of a loving relationship being two people who want nothing to do with each other will impact how they treat themselves and others down the roadWhat I am gathering from this is that generally you shouldn't sacrifice your mental health for your children.
I wouldn't phrase it like that exactly. I'm not a parent but to put it simply I feel like an unhappy home is gonna lead to an unhappy childhood.What I am gathering from this is that generally you shouldn't sacrifice your mental health for your children.
What I am gathering from this is that generally you shouldn't sacrifice your mental health for your children.
I meant moreso getting really depressed, like a serious toll, an unhealthy amount.To be honest. I can't sign that. What no one tells you beforehand: mental health suffering are part of raising kids. In the first years your brain will be a mess from the sleepless nights alone. The normal crying and shouting or times of illness not even mentioned.
Someone has to take this responsibility. If one partner decides not to help, than the other one will have this enormous stress all alone. Because of this i even can't imagine to raise my kids alone .Even with partner, raising kids is one of the most stressful phases of life. (And science even proofed that).
I love my kids, but this restless toddler phase drives me crazy.
I meant moreso getting really depressed, like a serious toll, an unhealthy amount.
My borderline is really high up bc I am never having kids, it sounds way too stressful for me. I don't even want a pet.Yeah, everyone has a other pain threshold there. It's just, many people have a very wrong imagination, when it comes down to raising kids ( and our capitalist advertisment that try to sell you the happy family tale really don't help).
Stress, exhaustion and the loss of temporary freedom are the norm. And partners can't always be happy and relaxed at this time, so more conflicts are the logical result.
But of course you should not loose yourself completely. This won't help your kids either. The question here is, where is the your personel borderline?