Discussion After thinking about it a lot, I've decided that I'm gonna quit gaming...

[Fawful93]

I already mentioned in past conversations on the chill topic, but after today, I came to the conclusion that I should just quit gaming. There are multiple reasons for taking such decision:

First of all, I need to find a job soon, and as such, I really need to play less and focus more. I'm autistic and hype kiiiiiiiiinda makes me far more distracted than the normal, so I can't follow games anymore as I used to;

Secondly, I said that I wouldn't buy the new Nintendo console until at least 10 games of my interest were released. However, thinking more about it, I realized that while I bought more than 50 games on the current console (the highest amount I've ever bought on a single console), and while I loved almost all of them, I realized that potentially the number of games I would buy on the next one would be extremely lower, because of multiple reasons that space from key figures behind some of the games I loved in the last years leaving their teams (Davide Soliani, the director of the Mario + Rabbids series left Ubisoft, and Hideki Kamiya who had important roles in the all the PlatinumGames games I loved on Wii U and Switch left the company), loss of interest (Fire Emblem and Pokemon, Legends aside), saturation (Animal Crossing and Splatoon), lack of confidence that the next entries will be as good as the most recent ones (Mario Kart and Smash Bros) or simply the fact that the next entries will take AGES to come (Zelda, Pikmin and whatever Monolith and Good Feel will do in future). Going by exclusions there are like... three games I would buy instantly in the first years of the console (Kirby, 3D Mario and 2D Metroid), and to be honest, it's not much for me to justify the purchase of the console;

And lastly, the big reason I've decided to quit gaming is.... sigh... I hate how the community has become. Everywhere I went I found nothing but hate and despicable words against Switch's games, and as someone who really loved almost all of them, this makes me extremely discouraged (and with Astro Bot's release and its overwhelmingly positive reception, I'm afraid this is going to get worse now). The amount of hate these games get makes me feeling like if I'm in the wrong in liking these games, and that if I have to be accepted by the community and having friends in it, I have to come to hate them myself, something that I simply don't accept. I love Super Mario Odyssey, I love BOTW AND TOTK, I love Kirby and the Forgotten Land, I love Super Smash Bros Ultimate, I love Fire Emblem Engage... I loved every single game I played on the console (except of Fire Emblem Three Houses), and I have no intention to turn all of that love in hate only to be accepted by others. If to be part of this community I have to do that, then I have no intention of keeping going with this, and as such, I quit.

TL,DR: I'm quitting gaming because need to focus on jobs, potential lack of games of my interest in the years to come and the totally dreadful direction the community, especially the Nintendo one, has taken in the last year. I'm still planning to get the five remaining big Switch games before the new console releases, but aside that, I think I'm pretty much done with gaming, and starting the next few days, I will start taking the distances. I hope you understand...

 

[Metroid]

Probably smart tbh

 

[Kasceis]

Quit gaming and focus time on yourself man!

 

[navierStokes]

You don't have to completely quit, but having some temporarily break whether that's a month or 4 years, which it was for me because I just started my Bachelor's and I realised -> Oh shit I really have to put in 40 hours efforts per week or I'll fail.
That made me discover new things also, moreover the gap allowed me to "miss" a lot and catch up, so it felt fresh to re-discover things in isolation without any surrounding discussions.

The latter is what I've seen you mostly bother in all interactions there were on here, I understand it's hard to let go of what perspective there might be online, but understand that it's very skewed and a tad hyperbolic at times.

Eitherway, it's good to let go gaming for a while if it's for your own benefit, don't worry it's not going anywhere. The switch 2's launch year games will be just as good as they'll be 4 years in.
Try to see how it resolves after a year, maybe unsub or remove all gaming related news/follows, whatever!

 

[Aether]

my initial thought was to argue about the last point (communities have been cyclical and over time topple over, not just now, from the get go on the web, long enough here...ok i kinda did, sorry -.-), and to inquire about the second ... but with the first, yeah, then its probably a good point to exit.

If you feel that and if in a couple of years you feel like youre fine with a little hobby next to your job, maybe you can pick gaming up again, or maybe you find another great hobby.
Just try to not have your job also be your hobby/obsession, or at least be cautious with it. (burnout, worker exploitation...) I hope you find a great job =)

 

[Sin & Punishment]

And lastly, the big reason I've decided to quit gaming is.... sigh... I hate how the community has become. Everywhere I went I found nothing but hate and despicable words against Switch's games, and as someone who really loved almost all of them, this makes me extremely discouraged (and with Astro Bot's release and its overwhelmingly positive reception, I'm afraid this is going to get worse now). The amount of hate these games get makes me feeling like if I'm in the wrong in liking these games, and that if I have to be accepted by the community and having friends in it, I have to come to hate them myself, something that I simply don't accept. I love Super Mario Odyssey, I love BOTW AND TOTK, I love Kirby and the Forgotten Land, I love Super Smash Bros Ultimate, I love Fire Emblem Engage... I loved every single game I played on the console (except of Fire Emblem Three Houses), and I have no intention to turn all of that love in hate only to be accepted by others. If to be part of this community I have to do that, then I have no intention of keeping going with this, and as such, I quit.

Sounds like you need to quit social media, not games

 

[Danny]

Why do you care what console warriors online think? Just play and enjoy your games.

 

[axlp]

I do think you should prioritize quitting games discourse but of course a break from games could be very good for you. (I didn't game for most of my 20s, I was busy doing other stuff.) the games you miss will still be there when you have the time and proper headspace to return.

 

[Fawful93]

Why do you care what console warriors online think? Just play and enjoy your games.

The thing is... I wanted to enjoy something AND to be around other people who also enjoyed that something. But things went badly off the rail, and now that something I love is hated by everyone else. I hate being alone, but the idea of hating what I love just to not being alone just disgusts me. If I have to choice between the two things, then I prefer being alone forever. It's simple as that...

 

[BowserIsMyFather]

Sounds like you need to quit social media, not games

We got a bingo

Yep, social media is toxic as fuck. I like it here, the people are generally very kind, open, honest, and - most importantly - have a wider appreciation for gaming than just Nintendo, without it devolving into console warring. Look at Astro Bot... It deserves to be celebrated. We are all gamers, and we should support great games and the developers behind them. We are allowed to like Nintendo, PlayStation, and Xbox, all at once. Hell, I love Atari, and nobody is going to make me feel weird about that lol

Those that do devolve, however, are usually dealt with in a swift manner. I hate how FB, Insta, and (especially) X can be, just horrible environments. People really do show their true colours on those platforms, and there are a lot of people that get a weird kick out of making people feel like a bag of shit (or goading them into an argument). I have very few people IRL that I can share this with, so this place is a breath of fresh air compared to those hellholes.

I have ADHD, and in addition I am almost certainly 'tasting the rainbow', if you catch my drift. Gaming can be a double-edged sword for me. Certain games are outright dangerous, and before I know it I'm 250 hours deep and wondering how it happened (Elden Ring, BotW, TotK). On the other hand, I am capable of picking and choosing which games I let in and when. I love Vampire Survivors, for example. Quick blasts of dopamine-rich satisfaction. I've recently bought Tempest 4000, which is batshit insane in the best way, completely frenetic arcade action, perfect for quick blasts. Space Invaders Extreme sits proudly on my shelf too, etc. I like keeping things fresh with some fast, satisfying, arcadey fun.

I don't know if any of that helps in the slightest, but I'll echo other's thoughts in that you need to do what's best for you. If that's 'cold turkey' from gaming completely in order to concentrate on other areas of your life, then that's cool, man. If it's reframing it and cutting out all of the toxic negativity (social media) surrounding gaming, then that kind of purge may go a long way towards easing your woes and giving you some peace.

You sound kinda burnt out, and I can also relate to that. So perhaps a break will in fact do you the world of good.

Either way, I wish you well. You don't have to be alone... You have Fami.

 

[Edie Napier]

I think given one of your initial threads what about the perceptions you struggle with interacting with the gaming community at large, I do honestly suggest taking a break and learning to divorce online perceptions from your own personal enjoyment of things, and learn to reconcile that people like or dislike different things. I get that it's hard, but I think you need to take a serious look at how negative discourse legitimately affects your mental health in a way that a hobby shouldn't impact it.

I'm battle-hardened by online internet discourse since I grew up an argumentative shit on the Nsider forums, but half the reason I stopped posting on message boards until recently is because I got sick of the toxic feedback loop I was stuck in and I just wanted to play games for the sake of enjoying them and sharing experiences with a few close friends. We have our disagreements, but I'm almost 36 years old; I'm an adult and in the grander scheme of things I have to learn to live with discourse and disagreements. Learning to understand the angles other people are coming from while not letting it affect me has been a boon to my enjoyment of my hobby.

Detox, take a break. Video games will be there when you get back.

 

[Pierceyonder]

Everyone needs a break sometimes. Maybe you'll be more excited for games at some point in the future, and I hope you can enjoy them again!

 

[touchfuzzy]

Lack of confidence that Nintendo can make successful sequels to Mario Kart and Smash Bros. when those games themselves are the best installments of their franchises at games #8 and #5 is pretty wild.

Just sound like a younger fella gettin' caught up in some self-manufactured drama. Just play and have fun. If not fun, play something else. It's a hobby not a job.

 

[EvilChameleon]

Sounds like you need to quit social media, not games

This isn't the first time we've suggested this to him, and it's certainly not going to be the first time he ignores this advice.

 

[Soul Skater]

And lastly, the big reason I've decided to quit gaming is.... sigh... I hate how the community has become. Everywhere I went I found nothing but hate and despicable words against Switch's games, and as someone who really loved almost all of them, this makes me extremely discouraged (and with Astro Bot's release and its overwhelmingly positive reception, I'm afraid this is going to get worse now). The amount of hate these games get makes me feeling like if I'm in the wrong in liking these games, and that if I have to be accepted by the community and having friends in it, I have to come to hate them myself, something that I simply don't accept. I love Super Mario Odyssey, I love BOTW AND TOTK, I love Kirby and the Forgotten Land, I love Super Smash Bros Ultimate, I love Fire Emblem Engage... I loved every single game I played on the console (except of Fire Emblem Three Houses), and I have no intention to turn all of that love in hate only to be accepted by others. If to be part of this community I have to do that, then I have no intention of keeping going with this, and as such, I quit.

Please stop letting random people you don’t know, will never meet, and whom a non zero amount are just bots and not even real people anyway, dictate how you think you should feel about something

If you love these games then keep playing them when you have the time. I mean yeah focus on building a career and all that as a priority but prioritizing that doesn’t mean you have to drop everything else.

Also you don’t need to be apart of a “gaming community” to play videogames. It’s not a church, it’s just an entertainment medium. There’s no rules.

 

[Fawful93]

Lack of confidence that Nintendo can make successful sequels to Mario Kart and Smash Bros. when those games themselves are the best installments of their franchises at games #8 and #5 is pretty wild.

Just sound like a younger fella gettin' caught up in some self-manufactured drama. Just play and have fun. If not fun, play something else. It's a hobby not a job.

This is the thing: Mario Kart 8 Deluxe has 96 tracks and the largest characters roster in the history of the franchise, same for Smash Bros Ultimate with its 110 stages and over 80 characters. The next games won't be match for that, they will HAVE to reduce the amount of stages/tracks and characters, and frankly the idea of playing a Mario Kart with just 32 initial tracks and a Smash Bros with 50 characters and 50 stages (regardless the fact that some of them will be new) after the beasts their predecessors were, doesn't really appeal me. That's why I'm skeptical that the next games might not hold the candle...

 

[MarcelRguez]

The next games won't be match for that, they will HAVE to reduce the amount of stages/tracks and characters

(Especially in Smash's case, this is arguably a good thing)

 

[Fawful93]

(Especially in Smash's case, this is arguably a good thing)

Not really, at least for me. Sure a few Stages/Tracks weren't that good, and I'm not good at using a few characters, but I loved the vast majority of them, and the idea of not having the same variety in the next games doesn't quite appeal me. You can see it as a good thing, but I don't.

 

[MusicProposition]

I totally get where you’re coming from, but I find it a bit strange to fear the “hate” against possible future Nintendo games. First, you can play for your own and don’t engage in community talk. I don’t see why these things are necessarily connected.

Second, this hate problem doesn’t have anything to do with gaming, this is just the internet where opinions collide, people get very emotional and cannot communicate properly. The internet is just not the place for serious conversations. And having said that, Nintendo games are by far not the most “hated” ones. If you watch videos on YouTube and go to Twitter you’re gonna find a lot of praise for Nintendo, many people have tremendous respect for them, and of course with that come the people who’ll trash them. But I think the point you’re making with how some games from them in the future are gonna get hate is only a very small fraction from reality, and one you can easily ignore.

And even then: how much does online discourse matter for your life, your experience?

 

[Fawful93]

And even then: how much does online discourse matter for your life, your experience?

It's not that. The thing is, as I said in a previous message, I just didn't want to be alone, I just wanted to be around other people who loved the games I loved as much as I did, but it seems like there are just none anymore. Resetera is full of haters, YouTube is full of haters, X is full of haters, and every minor site I've been is full of haters. I searched high and low on the internet, but I found only haters, even thought technically several of these games have over 10 millions of copies sold. I couldn't find one, I say ONE person who enjoyed them as I did. In the end I just thrown the towel, and I'm quitting everything, because I want to enjoy against these games, alone, to forget about of all the hate galore that surrounded them when I was here on Internet...

 

[Edie Napier]

It's not that. The thing is, as I said in a previous message, I just didn't want to be alone, I just wanted to be around other people who loved the games I loved as much as I did, but it seems like there are just none anymore. Resetera is full of haters, YouTube is full of haters, X is full of haters, and every minor site I've been is full of haters. I searched high and low on the internet, but I found only haters, even thought technically several of these games have over 10 millions of copies sold. I couldn't find one, I say ONE person who enjoyed them as I did. In the end I just thrown the towel, and I'm quitting everything, because I want to enjoy against these games, alone, to forget about of all the hate galore that surrounded them when I was here on Internet...

bruh

You just overlooked all the valid advice people are offering you to just be cynical about somebody's attempt to be positive about Smash and Mario Kart. Do you not see the irony in how you seem to hyperfixate on the negative here? Just a thought.

 

[Fawful93]

bruh

You just overlooked all the valid advice people are offering you to just be cynical about somebody's attempt to be positive about Smash and Mario Kart. Do you not see the irony in how you seem to hyperfixate on the negative here? Just a thought.

It really depends how you see things being positive or negative. To me playing a Smash Bros game with 50 stages after having played one with over 100 stages is not a positive thing (regardless the fact that several of those stages will be new ones). I might reconsider my opinion if the new game has the same amount of stages just different ones, in that case I wouldn't be so cynical. But I'm afraid that it's not gonna be the case. Perhaps I'll be wrong but I doubt.

 

[Edie Napier]

I might reconsider my opinion if the new game has the same amount of stages just different ones, in that case I wouldn't be so cynical. But I'm afraid that it's not gonna be the case. Perhaps I'll be wrong but I doubt.

See that? You just did it again.

Detox. Get out of the toxic feedback loop you've created for yourself.

 

[switchum]

Sorry to hear you’re feeling this way.

Something magical about gaming — or really any other kind of entertainment medium — is that you’re allowed to enjoy whatever you like, and the same goes for other people. It’s true that there are cases where you might feel like the only one who enjoys a certain product, but that doesn’t devalue the genuine joy it still gives you. You’re not “in the wrong” for liking a certain game even if everyone else seems to absolutely hate it. You don’t need to articulate a reason or work through why you like it. If it’s what makes you happy, then you have every right to continue enjoying it to its fullest potential. No one can take that from you, unless you let them.

Take pride in what you enjoy and continue having fun in the way that suits you best. If your excitement makes someone else unhappy, that’s their problem, not yours.

 

[Cheetah6442]

It's not that. The thing is, as I said in a previous message, I just didn't want to be alone, I just wanted to be around other people who loved the games I loved as much as I did, but it seems like there are just none anymore. Resetera is full of haters, YouTube is full of haters, X is full of haters, and every minor site I've been is full of haters. I searched high and low on the internet, but I found only haters, even thought technically several of these games have over 10 millions of copies sold. I couldn't find one, I say ONE person who enjoyed them as I did. In the end I just thrown the towel, and I'm quitting everything, because I want to enjoy against these games, alone, to forget about of all the hate galore that surrounded them when I was here on Internet...

Amigo, I need to know something. Why do you hyperfixate on so much negatively around what people say about Nintendo and completely ignore the big amount of positivity that many Nintendo or non-Nintendo fans gives them?

 

[Fawful93]

Amigo, I need to know something. Why do you hyperfixate on so much negatively around what people say about Nintendo and completely ignore the big amount of positivity that many Nintendo or non-Nintendo fans gives them?

Like who? Which part of "I never saw one I say ONE person who loves Switch's games as much as I do" didn't you quite get? It's not like if this place seems much different, the fact that you claimed that the next Smash Bros and Mario Kart having less stages/tracks is actually a positive thing, implies that unlike me you guys didn't enjoy Mario Kart 8 Deluxe and Super Smash Bros Ultimate as much as I did. And the fact that the first time I came here I met several people who claimed that the Wii U had a better lineup of first party than Switch, claiming that Nintendo lost its magic ever since adds more fuel to the fire for me. If you claim I'm just being all doom and gloom then prove me that there are other people here who loves Switch's lineup as much as I do.

 

[EvilChameleon]

You're absolutely right. We're all a bunch of Atari fanboys plotting the demise of Nintendo so that Atari may rise from the ashes and take back the top spot in the console and video game industry.

 

[TLZ]

And lastly, the big reason I've decided to quit gaming is.... sigh... I hate how the community has become. Everywhere I went I found nothing but hate and despicable words against Switch's games, and as someone who really loved almost all of them, this makes me extremely discouraged (and with Astro Bot's release and its overwhelmingly positive reception, I'm afraid this is going to get worse now). The amount of hate these games get makes me feeling like if I'm in the wrong in liking these games, and that if I have to be accepted by the community and having friends in it, I have to come to hate them myself, something that I simply don't accept. I love Super Mario Odyssey, I love BOTW AND TOTK, I love Kirby and the Forgotten Land, I love Super Smash Bros Ultimate, I love Fire Emblem Engage... I loved every single game I played on the console (except of Fire Emblem Three Houses), and I have no intention to turn all of that love in hate only to be accepted by others. If to be part of this community I have to do that, then I have no intention of keeping going with this, and as such, I quit.

I'm going to be blunt here;

Why do you give a shit? Are they in your living room / bedroom playing?

Man I have a human being that lives with me 24/7 who hates gaming, called my wife. If I succumbed, I'd have stopped gaming a decade ago.

Guess what though, I frankly don't give a shit. Told her you do the things you like, enjoy your hobbies, and I'll enjoy mine. I won't come near your stuff, so don't come near mine. As long as I'm taking care of my priorities, every single one of them, leave me be.

So, I nicely suggest you enjoy the things you like without letting others affect you. That's a circle that belongs to you. Don't let anyone in it. That little personal circle is what keeps you happy. Don't let anyone in to tamper with it (which is what you're doing now and thus you're feeling unhappy).

 

[Edie Napier]

If you claim I'm just being all doom and gloom then prove me that there are other people here who loves Switch's lineup as much as I do.

Why? Unlike you, I'm happy enough enjoying my hobbies and SSBU is a game I absolutely adore. I don't have to prove anything to anybody, and neither do you.

 

[Fawful93]

I'm going to be blunt here;

Why do you give a shit? Are they in your living room / bedroom playing?

Man I have a human being that lives with me 24/7 who hates gaming, called my wife. If I succumbed, I'd have stopped gaming a decade ago.

Guess what though, I frankly don't give a shit. Told her you do the things you like, enjoy your hobbies, and I'll enjoy mine. I won't come near your stuff, so don't come near mine. As long as I'm taking care of my priorities, every single one of them, leave me be.

So, I nicely suggest you enjoy the things you like without letting others affect you. That's a circle that belongs to you. Don't let anyone in it. That little personal circle is what keeps you happy. Don't let anyone in to tamper with it (which is what you're doing now and thus you're feeling unhappy).

Why? Unlike you, I'm happy enough enjoying my hobbies and SSBU is a game I absolutely adore. I don't have to prove anything to anybody, and neither do you.

I just... didn't want to be alone...

 

[Pillydillsy]

The internet always props up the loudest voices, I mean 80 percent of posts on twitter come from the same 20 percent of users. As a matter of fact, most twitter users don’t post more than 100 messages a month, yet I highly doubt Twitter shows you accounts that post less than 100 a month. That’s only one site, but the point is that generally the extreme opinions you see on social media are only a small, passionate group of people that probably take this too seriously. That would of course include us here at Fami, by the way. But maybe the people who disagree with you aren’t necessarily incompatible with you just because of a differing opinion. I mean my friends have extremely different opinions on games compared to me, but we’re still chill

 

[Cheetah6442]

It's not that. The thing is, as I said in a previous message, I just didn't want to be alone, I just wanted to be around other people who loved the games I loved as much as I did, but it seems like there are just none anymore. Resetera is full of haters, YouTube is full of haters, X is full of haters, and every minor site I've been is full of haters. I searched high and low on the internet, but I found only haters, even thought technically several of these games have over 10 millions of copies sold. I couldn't find one, I say ONE person who enjoyed them as I did. In the end I just thrown the towel, and I'm quitting everything, because I want to enjoy against these games, alone, to forget about of all the hate galore that surrounded them when I was here on Internet...

I just... didn't want to be alone...

My brother in freaking Christ. YOU. ARE. NOT. ALONE. IN. HIGHLY. ENJOYING. NINTENDO. GAMES. At this point, you need to completely remove/detach yourself from social media. It has almost completely warped your judgment into some toxic whirlwind that you can't seem to escape from as you are now. Sorry if this comes off as a little aggressive, I'm not trying to be. But you need to break this toxic mental cycle you have going on. Because if you don’t, I have a bad feeling it's only going to get worse.

P.S: Also TLZ, if you happen to find this post quoting you before I edited it, please ignore this lol. Didn't mean to do that.

 

[MarcelRguez]

Not really, at least for me. Sure a few Stages/Tracks weren't that good, and I'm not good at using a few characters, but I loved the vast majority of them, and the idea of not having the same variety in the next games doesn't quite appeal me. You can see it as a good thing, but I don't.

My point is, you don't know the shape these games will take. There's no reason to believe the next entries will not have a hook of their own, you're choosing to be negative about games that haven't been announced yet.

 

[em]

You should do what is best for you, but video games or not, you're not going to find a community that likes exactly what you like exactly the way that you do (short of joining a cult, perhaps, and that's not healthy).

That last point aside, though, yeah, put the games away so you can focus on yourself and finding a job. And you don't have to be buying new games or systems to enjoy gaming. Neither playing nor discussing nor buying games should be a commitment.

 

[Edie Napier]

I just... didn't want to be alone...

I grew up in the bowels of 4chan, that's where some REAL hyperbolic hate comes from. By contrast, Famiboards have been one of the more positive places I've been in the last two decades. Most of the people here I've interacted with have been nothing but delightful, even if I disagree with them. A lot of them. I disagree with a LOT of people here. But I still have that spring in my step and ultimately I don't think anybody here has ill intentions.

Again, this sound like you're wired into a toxic feedback loop and it's affected your judgment. Separate yourself from the opinions and approval of others in your hobby and just... enjoy it.

 

[PuppyPrincex]

I've been feeling the same way for a few years now but for different reasons. I'm nonbinary but i largely live as a woman and as a woman it's like games just don't feel welcoming to me I guess, especially as they get larger and larger in scope. It feels like all the big games are directed by men and don't reflect my experineces with how I interact with the world, like I beat Famicom Detective Club 3 and I loved it but it felt like a story by a man about men, and outside of small indie games that I don't know anyone else who's played them, the rest all feel like stories about women by men. Obviously there are exceptions, Celeste is great even if I suck at it and can't get past the third world even with assists turned on, but it's like I truly fell in love with games when I was about 12 or so watching a letsplay of gone home, and I just haven't found a game that speaks to me the same way as that game, and over 10 years later it just feels like I never will. I hear that the industry is changing and i really hope it is but I just do not know what's left for me to really connect iwht if the industry keeps being by men about men for men

 

[Fawful93]

Whatever, I already taken my decision. I'm quitting, and I have no intentions of changing my mind. I'm still taking the remaining Switch games I already preordered/kept on eye, but nothing beyond that. After Metroid Prime 4 or Pokemon Legends ZA (depending on which one of the two releases last), I'm done with gaming forever, limiting myself to replay the games I loved throught the years. My decision is final guys. I'm not going to change it. And that is all.

 

[Edie Napier]

I've been feeling the same way for a few years now but for different reasons. I'm nonbinary but i largely live as a woman and as a woman it's like games just don't feel welcoming to me I guess, especially as they get larger and larger in scope. It feels like all the big games are directed by men and don't reflect my experineces with how I interact with the world, like I beat Famicom Detective Club 3 and I loved it but it felt like a story by a man about men, and outside of small indie games that I don't know anyone else who's played them, the rest all feel like stories about women by men. Obviously there are exceptions, Celeste is great even if I suck at it and can't get past the third world even with assists turned on, but it's like I truly fell in love with games when I was about 12 or so watching a letsplay of gone home, and I just haven't found a game that speaks to me the same way as that game, and over 10 years later it just feels like I never will. I hear that the industry is changing and i really hope it is but I just do not know what's left for me to really connect iwht if the industry keeps being by men about men for men

As a fellow NB, these are valid feelings. I hope as we age into gaming more we find experiences that are inclusive to us.

 

[xghost777]

I’ll keep it simple, stop looking for negativity on the internet because you will only find it if you look for it. Also, stop spreading negativity yourself if you want to find positivity from others. There’s a lot of people here who would love to enjoy chatting games with you, but if you keep putting them and the games they love down and only talk about the latest instance of how the “gaming community” has let you down you’ll never have those conversations.

 

[Edie Napier]

I’ll keep it simple, stop looking for negativity on the internet because you will only find it if you look for it. Also, stop spreading negativity yourself if you want to find positivity from others. There’s a lot of people here who would love to enjoy chatting games with you, but if you keep putting them and the games they love down and only talk about the latest instance of how the “gaming community” has let you down you’ll never have those conversations.

I found people who enjoyed Sticker Star as much as I did, anything's possible :v

 

[touchfuzzy]

This is the thing: Mario Kart 8 Deluxe has 96 tracks and the largest characters roster in the history of the franchise, same for Smash Bros Ultimate with its 110 stages and over 80 characters. The next games won't be match for that, they will HAVE to reduce the amount of stages/tracks and characters, and frankly the idea of playing a Mario Kart with just 32 initial tracks and a Smash Bros with 50 characters and 50 stages (regardless the fact that some of them will be new) after the beasts their predecessors were, doesn't really appeal me. That's why I'm skeptical that the next games might not hold the candle...

It's because "more" does not equal to "better"

 

[Justin_Bailey]

I found people who enjoyed Sticker Star as much as I did, anything's possible :v

There’s a community that makes and plays homebrew Virtual Boy games.

 

[Clov]

That's a great idea! There's a lot of things much better than video games out there. Like movies. You could get into those instead! For me, lately I've been playing less video games and reading lots of fun indie comics. I read Emily Carroll's "When I Arrived at the Castle" last week... fantastic stuff!

There's a whole world of exciting entertainment outside of video games if you give them a chance! Go and explore!

I've been feeling the same way for a few years now but for different reasons. I'm nonbinary but i largely live as a woman and as a woman it's like games just don't feel welcoming to me I guess, especially as they get larger and larger in scope. It feels like all the big games are directed by men and don't reflect my experineces with how I interact with the world, like I beat Famicom Detective Club 3 and I loved it but it felt like a story by a man about men, and outside of small indie games that I don't know anyone else who's played them, the rest all feel like stories about women by men. Obviously there are exceptions, Celeste is great even if I suck at it and can't get past the third world even with assists turned on, but it's like I truly fell in love with games when I was about 12 or so watching a letsplay of gone home, and I just haven't found a game that speaks to me the same way as that game, and over 10 years later it just feels like I never will. I hear that the industry is changing and i really hope it is but I just do not know what's left for me to really connect iwht if the industry keeps being by men about men for men

Sadly this is just how a lot of bigger, more mainstream games are. But you mentioned small indie stuff... and the thing is, those always happen to be the best anyway! If you're looking for games by and for women, games about queer people made by and for queer people, Itch.io has got a TON of amazing stuff! I actually made a thread with some stuff for Pride Month, but if you're looking for more just let me know!

 

[TLZ]

I just... didn't want to be alone...

You're not alone! I'm pretty sure there are many who like what you like, just gotta look and wait. But not everyone may have your level of enthusiasm for a specific game, doesn't mean they don't like or hate it. You still connect.

Look I can't find a single person on here who likes Captain Tsubasa II as much as I do, doesn't detract me from it. But in all honesty I know if I google I'd find a fanclub, but I can't be bothered

Even if I do join them, I don't expect them to like everything about it that I do. At the end of the day we all still have different tastes and that's the beauty of it.

 

[PuppyPrincex]

That's a great idea! There's a lot of things much better than video games out there. Like movies. You could get into those instead! For me, lately I've been playing less video games and reading lots of fun indie comics. I read Emily Carroll's "When I Arrived at the Castle" last week... fantastic stuff!

There's a whole world of exciting entertainment outside of video games if you give them a chance! Go and explore!



Sadly this is just how a lot of bigger, more mainstream games are. But you mentioned small indie stuff... and the thing is, those always happen to be the best anyway! If you're looking for games by and for women, games about queer people made by and for queer people, Itch.io has got a TON of amazing stuff! I actually made a thread with some stuff for Pride Month, but if you're looking for more just let me know!

I appreciate this but part of games for me is the communal aspect of it, talking about games with people and trying to understand them more and the like. I'm also often allergic to queer stuff as the overlap with sexuality makes me feel panicky due to past experiences.Thank you for the gesture though

 

[ProteusRidley]

Whatever, I already taken my decision. I'm quitting, and I have no intentions of changing my mind. I'm still taking the remaining Switch games I already preordered/kept on eye, but nothing beyond that. After Metroid Prime 4 or Pokemon Legends ZA (depending on which one of the two releases last), I'm done with gaming forever, limiting myself to replay the games I loved throught the years. My decision is final guys. I'm not going to change it. And that is all.

mate, all you need is a break.

constant online exposure isn't healthy. I've been here for a total of 2 years and yet I've put in as much time as some people do in a couple months. social media is essentially cancer for the brain. I've been apart of GAF, ERA, and Twitter, and I've taken extended breaks from all. Life isn't easy, but doesn't mean you should take a hobby away. It's okay to take breaks and come back to stuff you enjoy later.

But I ain't tryin to stop you, you can do whatever your heart desires. Just make sure its in your best interest, and know that people won't judge you for coming back, you'll be welcomed back.

 

[Kingpin Rogers]

Sounds like an extreme reaction when a more measured reaction would work just fine. Forever is a long time and it sounds like it's a hobby you enjoy a lot.

Rather than going straight to dial 100, why don't you just try cutting back on games? It doesn't need to be as big as you're seemingly making it out to be.

 

[GamerJM]

A part of me wants to at least take a break from gaming. It's just hard to find time with a busy job that takes up most of my time on the weekdays (including evenings and sometimes weekends), three partners, parents who want to spend time with me, and other basic adult obligations. I'm sure I can fit gaming in, it's just hard to find spaces of time where it slots in well right now.

 

[NPP1]

A part of me wants to at least take a break from gaming. It's just hard to find time with a busy job that takes up most of my time on the weekdays (including evenings and sometimes weekends), three partners, parents who want to spend time with me, and other basic adult obligations. I'm sure I can fit gaming in, it's just hard to find spaces of time where it slots in well right now.

I wouldn't call having three partners a basic adult obligation, but I get where you're coming from. I'm a law student and outside of semester break, I attend lectures and study at the library upwards of five hours every day, including weekends. Sometimes, it's just hard to find time to play games.

 

[DittoM]

I love Super Mario Odyssey, I love BOTW AND TOTK, I love Kirby and the Forgotten Land, I love Super Smash Bros Ultimate,

Mate, if you think it's hell on Earth being a fan of games like Super Mario Odyssey, Breath of the Wild, and Super Smash Bros Ultimate imagine how hard it is for fans of games that aren't at 20 million copies sold and above a 90 on MC. Like I'm an ARMS fan ,and being a fan of that series has been pretty shit for the last 7 years. Same thing goes for other unpopular Switch games like Age of Calamity, Paper Mario the Origami King, and Pokémon Scarlet and Violet. This seems like a massive overreaction, where the solution is pretty easily quitting social media or at least not giving a shit when people criticize games you like.